Did I make the right call?

[frenchie]

, it was her idea to break up a

heh , gotta be cautious ( not saying in this case particularily ) , sometimes it's just a test for them to have a proof of how hard you love them .. cunning little creatures ain't they !


to ny.chief ; i bet the californian chicks that ask how much cash you make like that , aren't so fond of preliminaries yeah i think i wouldn't have had any problem to pull the don't give a fuck on such an animal too ( boring chicks help decristalising the impressiveness of beauty for sure , you soon start to look at them as if they were and endless roll of white toilet paper , not so sure of my english there ^^) , but at least she was frank , the worst is discorvering this kind of love for money after marriage and a kid ... ... i'd have said to her " me ..i'm a hobo , feed in trash bins wanna marry me ? " you know humor just to see her reaction i really like to turn shitty conversations into sociologic experiments adds some fun so you don't feel like you loose your time with mainstream dissapointment ^^... a beauty , with no conversation man talk about a sin ... like a ferrari delivered without the engine .... painfull !

[NY Chief]

Well put, frenchie!

[fillmore nyc]

i can say that I'm not proud or happy about how things ended up.

Why is that?? Its perfect. She told you exactly how she was feeling. She was honest. Real honesty is perfect. If she's having a rewind at this point, thats HER issue. She pulled out her "big gun"... you dealt with it. Its not your issue to question her intentions, but we all do that cause our ego inevitably raids the party. BE proud of it... you made an adult decision, and you can live with it. Its what we all do when it comes to this sort of thing. If you reach a point where you regret it, LEARN from it, and work it differently next time... cause there WILL be a next time.
You're 22 bro. Move on and smile.

You have SOOOOO much life ahead. This shit aint even a pimple on yer ass compared to whats coming down the pike, trust me.

I must have had 1000 men say that to me when I was 22. I didnt listen to them. I SHOULD have, but like every other 22 year old, I had to learn shit for myself.

If I knew then what I know now, I WOULD have listened, cause they were right... you'll see.

[chrisom]

Ditto- After 10 months of separation and me trying to get her to come home (when I was 22), I met a beautiful, hot slender redhead that blew the wifey away. I date her for a month or two, and a month after the divorce the ex-wife wants to come back, saying "what's she got that I don't have?" to which I replied: "Well, she hasn't slept with half the town, for starters, and Why now, a month after our divorce?- I'm never coming back to you"

Does this story sound like the words to a Dokken song?

Anyway, I find out the ex has gotten knocked up by some dude who was engaged to somebody else. I had finally got off the train and never looked back, after much pathethic grovelling throughout the 5 year relationship. If you care too much, women won't respect you. They always say "where are all the nice guys?" but that's only because they're looking for one to shit on.

If you care about women but don't NEED them, you're in a much better position for both of you to be happy. That's the basis of Dobson's "Love Must Be Tough" book which is at many thrift stores for $1. Wish I had that book back in the day when I was young and dumb. But you have the opportunity to be very wise.

[spaceace76]

Why is that??

to clarify, it sucks that it had to go this way, but I'm happy with how I handled it, and I'm happy that it's been so easy for me to move on. Wouldn't change a thing. I don't want to date her anymore, and I have nothing to be upset about. She and I are just over and I couldn't be happier. I get to move on and find someone else. I'm sympathetic (to a point) that she seems to be upset about it now, but overall it doesn't bother me. She'll be gone soon and she's not mine to look after anymore. I don't give a fuck! So she can be upset or whatever, it has no bearing on my feelings. In fact I'm a bit pissed because it feels like dating her was sort of a waste of time, but I can't trade in life lessons for free. And I've always liked learning things the hard way...

You have SOOOOO much life ahead. This shit aint even a pimple on yer ass compared to whats coming down the pike, trust me.

Yeah, I can't wait to see the next girl I'll be spending time with. Here's hoping she's hot!!!
This girl was a bit conservative. I gotta find myself a kinky freak...

heh , gotta be cautious ( not saying in this case particularily ) , sometimes it's just a test for them to have a proof of how hard you love them .. cunning little creatures ain't they !

Ben, if I ever date a girl like that, my buds and you metro guys have full rights to boil me alive. Or her. Whichever seems funnier at the time.

They always say "where are all the nice guys?" but that's only because they're looking for one to shit on.

Truer words... Girls deep down hate the nice guy. Even if they claim the opposite. Unfortunately I'm an inherently honest and mostly nice guy. Maybe I should flip that on it's head for a while and see what happens.

[frenchie]

They always say "where are all the nice guys?" but that's only because they're looking for one to shit on.

Truer words... Girls deep down hate the nice guy. Even if they claim the opposite. Unfortunately I'm an inherently honest and mostly nice guy. Maybe I should flip that on it's head for a while and see what happens.

if i was you i wouldn't sweat too much on beeing a nice guy or not , just be yourself the best you can , it's true that 18 years old chicks that only lived in the cotton of their parent's house and in the warmth of their sugar daddy wan't the only thing lacking in their lives , danger , sufferance ,in one word the bad boy ... and then there are the other women who do exist ... each to his own ... besides don't be eager to be cold hearted in your human relationships , those who are completely certainly aren't happy , there's plenty of time ahead you for betrayals and all kind of shit that help greatly to build up your own irony about women or even friends , you'll find your balance with experience between the prick that take a new ennemy out of every handshake , and the nice guy constantly covered in mud , and i tell you it can be an impassionating task , takes a lot of trials and errors to refine ...

[spaceace76]

i mostly keep writing because people are nice enough to offer their advice, and sometimes get the wrong idea about how i'm handling it, which is understandable since I didn't offer much info to begin with. I do still love her, I just don't wish to be with her ever again. She's a good person, she just doesn't know what she wants, and I'm not about to let her use me to figure that out.

another reason is that the management at my new job is beyond incompetent and has yet to get me to training after about 3 weeks of waiting. so I'm stuck at home (it's summer after all) doing nothing most of the time. I've been playing Majora's Mask, I've never gotten all the heart pieces and finished the Bomber's Notebook, so I figured I'd give it a shot. I finished the Bomber's Notebook a few minutes ago, with one temple and three masks left, and a shitload of heart pieces to pick up. I plan on fighting Majora one-on-one, as I usually use a mask that makes the final boss piss easy. This is all to sharpen my skills for an Ocarina of Time replay, to prep me story-wise for Skyward Sword. I'm a big Zelda fan... ask away...



And that's good advice Ben. Thanks for the encouragement.

[fillmore nyc]

So you tell me, is this guy really in love? I still think he likes her. Why does he keep writing?

Why do YOU write about Ace (aka "this guy") like he's in the periphery and cant "hear" you? Of COURSE he still likes her... Im sure that on some level he still loves her, otherwise he wouldnt have asked these questions of guys that are willing to help.

Ill go out on a limb here and guess that Ace keeps writing because he's got a wound in his heart, and feels a need to have some clarity regarding what he did. Knowing that guys around here give a shit about others means something, so I believe he did the right thing. IMO, he's gotten some good advice by those that are willing to offer it.

[redozzman]

i mostly keep writing because people are nice enough to offer their advice, and sometimes get the wrong idea about how i'm handling it, which is understandable since I didn't offer much info to begin with. I do still love her, I just don't wish to be with her ever again. She's a good person, she just doesn't know what she wants, and I'm not about to let her use me to figure that out.

another reason is that the management at my new job is beyond incompetent and has yet to get me to training after about 3 weeks of waiting. so I'm stuck at home (it's summer after all) doing nothing most of the time. I've been playing Majora's Mask, I've never gotten all the heart pieces and finished the Bomber's Notebook, so I figured I'd give it a shot. I finished the Bomber's Notebook a few minutes ago, with one temple and three masks left, and a shitload of heart pieces to pick up. I plan on fighting Majora one-on-one, as I usually use a mask that makes the final boss piss easy. This is all to sharpen my skills for an Ocarina of Time replay, to prep me story-wise for Skyward Sword. I'm a big Zelda fan... ask away...



And that's good advice Ben. Thanks for the encouragement.

Late to the thread, but you made the right decision and its time to move on, she is very young and college bond, more than likely this relationship would have ended once she settled in at college. I can't tell you how many of my friends lost their highschool sweethearts once they went off to college, its a whole new ballgame. Smart move on your part!